Truly – moms are the real heroes of society. I say this without wistful admiration for my own mother (though I love her greatly) or as a woman-pleasing statement. Men make flattering statements about women all the time in a twisted attempt to be accepted as one of those good boys – “Well, isn’t he nice!” This will not be an article of flattorious talk. In the paragraphs that follow I will inform you (in a factual manner) of a socially extinct profession, the most noble work – what the world needs – Mom.
I want to make several points about Moms. Before I start please note – these thoughts are coming from a 20-year-old male. I can’t relate to what mom’s go through, and I never will. What I will do is explain from a third-party perspective what is happening to the title mom, and hopefully offer some encouragement to someone.
Society has turned Mothering into a boring hobby at best: From a social perspective being a mom isn’t viewed as much of an accomplishment. I hear people talking in a sickening manner in reference to their children. Please excuse my revealing this, but instead of being held up as something to be valued, children are more often described as “little s****.” I come from a family of ten kids. When this fact is brought up people typically respond negatively – “How do your parents do it? I could never – I’d go insane!” It doesn’t end there. I have a habit of asking people if they want to have kids someday – and guess what? – not one person I have asked has responded enthusiastically to this question. Not. One. Most millenials loathe the thought.
How can this be? How is it that culture could come to this? Society, media, funnzy-groups, they have all labelled mothering the grunt work, something to do if you have time, after you’ve chased your dreams, and settled in your career – because it’s all about you.
Now, please forgive me if I’ve struck the wrong tone. I don’t mean to say that every woman who isn’t a mom is some egotistical snob. What I am saying is this: there are woman who would like to have the freedom to be a mother, to love their kids, and make mothering their full-time gig, but feel that this isn’t a culterally acceptable profession. Let’s get this straight – being a mother is one of the most noble, important things a woman could do. Here’s why . . .
Being a Mom is a sacrifice: Choosing to set aside your life to nurture another human is, franky, profound. It’s rare. And it’s wonderful. It’s not easy, which is what makes the endevour incredible. Giving up time, money, and dreams to care for another person is not natural, but it is good.
You wont get famous being a mom: The woman who stops playing the world’s game, the woman who realizes that fame brings no happiness – that’s a special person. All us kids – we want money! And friends! And fame! This attitude has carried on later and later in life until by the time anyone has any sense of what really matters, they are asleep on their death bed. Moms, please know – you matter, and though societly chooses only to halfheartedly acknowledge it once a year – society is indebted to you.
Moms are many times the only person a kid has in her life who cares: If moms don’t care for the children, then no one will. Having a mom as a role model makes all the difference. Thinking about society now, I laugh, we praise the intelligent of the world, the athletic, the leaders. What wonderful people! Like praising the painting instead of the artist. Good peope don’t come from nowhere – there is always a care taker, an artist. And usually, that’s mom.
If you are reading this and you’re under 40, you were the result of your Mom’s choice that “your life matters”: Abortion is currently the a socially accepted way to control your life. America’s government has upheld that a woman has the right to terminate an inconvienient result of an immature act. Think about it – you were once an embyro. And your mom had the right to end your life if she had wanted. But she didn’t.
I’m a guyish sort of boy, so it’s hard for me to think of something truly encouraging to someone who may be in the mothering realm, or close too it. If you are a mom, mom-to-be, or contemplating terminating your mom-status – please know, being a mom matters. There is nothing more admirable than a person who lays their life down for another, and that’s who a mom is.
I would also like to say something to all the men, the dads, and husband. Treat those ladies right – they’re gold.
Proverbs 31:28-30 “Her childrem rise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”