Moms – More Valuable Than Anyone Knows

Truly – moms are the real heroes of societyI say this without wistful admiration for my own mother (though I love her greatly) or as a woman-pleasing statement. Men make flattering statements about women all the time in a twisted attempt to be accepted as one of those good boys – “Well, isn’t he nice!”  This will not be an article of flattorious talk. In the paragraphs that follow I will inform you (in a factual manner) of a socially extinct profession, the most noble work – what the world needs –  Mom.

I want to make several points about Moms. Before I start please note – these thoughts are coming from a 20-year-old male. I can’t relate to what mom’s go through, and I never will. What I will do is explain from a third-party perspective what is happening to the title mom, and hopefully offer some encouragement to someone.

Society has turned Mothering into a boring hobby at best: From a social perspective being a mom isn’t viewed as much of an accomplishment. I hear people talking in a sickening manner in reference to their children. Please excuse my revealing this, but instead of being held up as something to be valued, children are more often described as “little s****.” I come from a family of ten kids. When this fact is brought up people typically respond negatively – “How do your parents do it? I could never – I’d go insane!” It doesn’t  end there. I have a habit of asking people if they want to have kids someday – and guess what? – not one person I have asked has responded enthusiastically to this question. Not. One. Most millenials loathe the thought.

How can this be? How is it that culture could come to this? Society, media, funnzy-groups, they have all labelled mothering the grunt work, something to do if you have time, after you’ve chased your dreams, and settled in your career – because it’s all about you.  

Now, please forgive me if I’ve struck the wrong tone. I don’t mean to say that every woman who isn’t a mom is some egotistical snob. What I am saying is this: there are woman who would like to have the freedom to be a mother, to love their kids, and make mothering their full-time gig, but feel that this isn’t a culterally acceptable profession. Let’s get this straight – being a mother is one of the most noble, important things a woman could do. Here’s why . . .

Being a Mom is a sacrifice:  Choosing to set aside your life to nurture another human is, franky, profound. It’s rare. And it’s wonderful. It’s not easy, which is what makes the endevour incredible. Giving up time, money, and dreams to care for another person is not natural, but it is good. 

You wont get famous being a mom: The woman who stops playing the world’s game, the woman who realizes that fame brings no happiness – that’s a special person. All us kids – we want money! And friends! And fame! This attitude has carried on later and later in life until by the time anyone has any sense of what really matters, they are asleep on their death bed. Moms, please know – you matter, and though societly chooses only to halfheartedly acknowledge it once a year – society is indebted to you.

Moms are many times the only person a kid has in her life who cares: If moms don’t care for the children, then no one will. Having a mom as a role model makes all the difference. Thinking about society now, I laugh,  we praise the intelligent of the world, the athletic, the leaders. What wonderful people! Like praising the painting instead of the artist. Good peope don’t come from nowhere – there is always a care taker, an artist. And usually, that’s mom.

If you are reading this and you’re under 40, you were the result of your Mom’s choice that “your life matters”: Abortion is currently the a socially accepted way to control your life. America’s government has upheld that a woman has the right to terminate an inconvienient result of an immature act. Think about it – you were once an embyro. And your mom had the right to end your life if she had wanted. But she didn’t.

I’m a guyish sort of boy, so it’s hard for me to think of something truly encouraging to someone who may be in the mothering realm, or close too it. If you are a mom, mom-to-be, or contemplating terminating your mom-status – please know, being a mom matters. There is nothing more admirable than a person who lays their life down for another, and that’s who a mom is.

I would also like to say something to all the men, the dads, and husband. Treat those ladies right – they’re gold.

Proverbs 31:28-30 “Her childrem rise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” 

 

 

 

 

Abortion: Discussing the practice logically

Debate. Is it even worth it? There are many debates where one side had the facts, the other side went with their feelings, and it was still a round of “he-said-she-said-you’re-wrong-because-I’m-right.” The fundamental problem with any debate is the failure to define terms and to first agree upon what is and isn’t truth. Unless you set up ground rules, there can be no argument.

Here’s an example – If I were to enter a calculus competition I would first inquire what the judges stood by in terms of controversial math principles. However, if I failed to hear the terms, pandemonium would ensue. Imagine, my opponent believes the square root of 9 to be 3, but I believe it is 6. The judges would inform me very soon that my fundamental math principles are faulty, and there would be no competition.

Alright – but, suppose the competition had no judge. Suppose it was up to my opponent and I to convince the audience of our views. Neither of our math problems would come out the same, yet we would insist the other is wrong. The contest would consist of useless bantering, only serving to confuse both parties. How could they be so wrong?

As you can see, a contest without rules is no contest at all. And a debate without established premises will surely chase its own tail. Is it worth it?

People who are pro-choice generally believe a few principles that bring about their impassioned feelings. Here are a few I’ve heard: The government shouldn’t control someones body. Woman should be able to choose. We need abortion to save woman’s lives. You shouldn’t be allowed to impose your views about when life begins on another person. 

Too be informed about any issue, you must retract yourself from it, and see things for what they are. What’s most important here? What is logical? Why do I believe what I believe? Am I being fair? Am I truly informed on this issue, or am I arguing emotionally?

Well, my business is the life of babies. I want to encourage people who value the unborn to keep loving mothers, and to be bold about making their voice heard, but to do that in a loving way. I don’t think arguing with pro-choicer’s is a particularly productive thing, for the reasons mentioned – our premises on truth are different. That being said, if I found myself (or you find yourself) in a situation where argument was necessary, then there are a view things to remember to help your opponent see the facts in an objective way:

You must establish accepted premises. Good argument is based on universal truth. i.e [We agree that] murdering human beings is wrong, President Lincoln is a human being, therefore murdering President Lincoln is wrong.

1) Establish that LIFE is the most valuable thing in the world: People value life. End of story. This doesn’t take much explaining. Human life truly is, universally, the most valuable thing in existence.

2) Establish that logical moral people don’t take risks with human life: Many, many, many laws are in place to protect human life. In fact, probably more laws about protecting human life than any other thing. Also, I gave an analogy in my previous post about a general bombing a city: No general is his right mind would order the destruction of a city with only 50% surety that all civilians had been evacuated – there is just too must risk of losing innocent life.

3) Establish that abortion is a risk because people don’t agree on it’s morality: Basically, it’s a divided issue. According to polling,  approximately one half the USA say the unborn’s body is a human being, the other half say the unborn body is not a human being. Consider this sequence:

A body, as it would appear, is laying in a lawn. There is a judge. And two groups of people (we will name them groups 1 and 2). Group 1 is arguing that the body laying in the lawn is a human being, and they should be allowed to run into the lawn and save it. Group 2 believes the body is, in fact, not a human being –  that it’s a diseased elk needing extermination. There is equal evidence on both sides. So, should the judge allow group 2 to shoot the body, or should the judge allow group 1 the opportunity to save it?  All to say, the judge allowing group 2 to have their way is unarguably a risky decision.

With these three excepted truths, you can form a logical argument: It’s wrong to risk killing human life, abortion risks killing human life, therefore abortion is wrong.  

(This is just one argument I have devised. Think about the issue rationally and create more arguments that follow logical order)

 

Disclaimer:  [Abortion risks killing human life] – That is a statement made to create an agreed premise. Technically abortion risks human life, seeing that some people disagree. However, scientifically speaking, and by every objective definition of the idea, the unborn body is human life.  Look for another article on that in the near future.

I hope you have found this informative. I’d love to hear your questions, comments, and concerns. Please remember – love those who oppose your views, as they are human beings too.

 

 

Innocent until proven Guilty. Alive until proven Dead

       Babies on trial. A voice for the voiceless. The purpose – fighting for the children yet unborn. There are over 40,000,000 abortions each year. Whether you are for or against abortion, when 40,000,000 lives are on the line . . . well, I’ll say this – we had better be getting this issue right.  

The idea of wanting to be sure people aren’t inadvertently killing 40 million babies every year is (correct me if it’s flawed) a fair thought. Though this is a simple thought, many skew the debate. Woman’s body. Government control. Reproductive rights. Both sides have their persuasions, but it comes down to two reasonably important things – life, and death. Is there any chance the world’s current view about abortion is wrong? Permit a story to clarify. . .

A ranking General tells his men, “We are going to bomb this city to ashes,” his index finger stuck in the center of a map, “Those terrorist must be wiped off the face of the earth!” One of his top intelligence agents quickly objects, “But sir, there’s only a 50 percent chance it won’t still be inhabited by 2 million innocent civilians. They won’t have time to evacuate. Men, woman, and children would all be collateral damage to this decision; surely you can’t expect us to overlook these human lives?”

Whose thinking is more logically sound? The General speaks with passion, but is blinded by his own agenda (be it worthy or not). The Agent voices his concern with the big picture in mind, knowing one shouldn’t overlook such a great risk without further evidence that the operation wont threaten ANY innocent lives.

This story serves as a parallel to the abortion movement. Our country is divided on the practice. Gallup polling shows that over the past years, abortion’s moral approval rating has ebbed and flowed around the 50 percent mark. People supporting abortion state that “no one knows for sure when life begins.” Well, 50 percent of people think that statement is false.

The numbers support that there is a widespread disagreement. However, logically speaking, if you don’t know the answer to the question of when life begins, then you would be the first to stand against anyone taking the risk. Just as the General shouldn’t take the 50/50 gamble, potentially wiping out 2 million civilians, neither should humanity risk the lives of millions of unborn children. Innocent until proven guilty. Alive until proven dead.

Our country (and world) has lost the meaning of logic when dealing with abortion. Caught in the arbitrary idea that abortion falls under the woman’s right to choose, we continue to uphold a practice that is the antonym of logical. Strewn in the left vs. right, liberal vs. conservative, we throw out logic and speak with nothing but empty emotionalism. Logic. Facts. Truth. This is what the world needs.

Fight for truth, not victory.